On birthday cake and pouring oil

"She no longer uses old tape measures."

“There is no need to run outside for better seeing… Rather abide at the center of your being; For the more you leave it the less you learn. Search your heart and see… The way to do is to be.” –Lao Tzu

It was my birthday last week!  I had a multi-day celebration with friends that was full of books, dinners, beautiful words, lots of art and good cake.  So many amazing people in my world!   And because I love presents, I gave myself a gift.  My birthday gift to my self was to spend time alone contemplating the year that just passed and setting intentions for the year to come.

Simply Fall

Somewhere along the way, I realized that the new year doesn’t begin for me in January.  The new and fresh has always come for me in the Fall.  Ironically, as leaves are falling like rain, crunching beneath my feet with finality, I am vibrating with the excitement of birth and new beginnings.  I used to think that it was because I was on a school schedule and really into new school supplies and fresh notebooks.  I thought it was because there was a new academic year to use as a fresh slate.  But, I have learned that it’s way more than the influence of a school calendar; it is the rhythm of my year.  My year begins in Autumn.


This past year brought an exploration of my business and my creative practice.  I learned much about the way that I live my life and how and when I create and share.  I took classes and kept notebooks, and thought I would find a mission statement or marketing plan that would be the key to this next season of empty nest.  I thought that I might create a new way of being in the studio and writing now that all of my children are out of school and mostly out of the house.  But, actually, the biggest discovery was this:

The most important offering that I have as an artist/mother/coach/mentor is my life.


Period.  That’s it.  I have spoken to my students and gotten feedback from instructors and most importantly excavated through hundreds of journal pages.  And this the conclusion that I’ve come to.  My richest product line is wrapped around my life and how I BE in my life.   My biggest influence and greatest offering is woven around the core of my creative life well-lived.  And so, I entered year 49 with this intention:

Just my face

My life and creative practice are a daily offering.  A creative life is my path/vocation/way.  I do this faithfully  inside my four walls.  This year, I intend to share more – a little something every day.  I’m giving this project my birthday.  I’m showing up with my real face.  No makeup/masks.  Just me pouring out my creative life as an offering.


Join me.  Explore your creative-life offerings.  How are you living and being that is a work of art?  Use the hashtag #iamthevessel at Instagram and Facebook.  And keep an eye out here for my stories and the stories of other creative vessels pouring out the oil of their lives on the world.

By | 2016-10-19T14:20:31+00:00 November 5th, 2013|Uncategorized|4 Comments

About the Author:

I create containers for words and paint and I fill them. I craft safe, sacred spaces for people to wrestle, create, heal and shout from the mountain tops.
And I teach people to do all of these things for themselves.

  • Candi Dickerson

    Thank you, my Betsy Friend, for pouring into my life and heart all these years. You have forever changed me with your investment.

    • wildthymecreative

      Candi, The investment is a circle.

  • Terri Guillemets

    Yet another blog read that brought tears — of joy and comfort, mostly.

    My birthday just passed as well, at the end of October. Both INFJ’s and both born in the same season, no wonder reading your works and looking at your art often makes my soul feel like I’m looking in a mirror.

    This is also the first year for me that I’ve realized, even though it has been true for many years, that my new year starts in the autumn. And from the rhythm of the year perspective it makes perfect sense. From what I understand, the seasonal cusp, the exact moment when we pass from the light half of the year and into the dark half based on the position of the sun, just happens to be tonight, and is also considered the Celtic New Year. A time of personal reflection, of both endings and beginnings, “chaos leading to reorder,” releasing the old and the negative and everything we do not want to carry with us into the new year.

    And you know that “vibrating with the excitement of birth and new beginnings” is going on my site, right?!

    “My biggest influence and greatest offering is woven around the core of my creative life well-lived.” Love it! And trying to live it too! “Pouring out my creative life as an offering” is what I too have come to a conclusion should be one of my main purposes for the upcoming months, until and unless my soul decides to take me in another direction.

    Thank you, as always, for the words and the images and the outpouring of your self and the invitation to feel. And next time you’re in Arizona, please stop by for a hug and a coffee! I saw that you passed through last time without saying hi 😉

    • wildthymecreative


      Thank you for such a lovely, full reply. This: “the seasonal cusp, the exact moment when we pass from the light half of the year and into the dark half…the Celtic New Year. A time of personal reflection, of both beginnings and endings.” I don’t know why I’m surprised when there are such beautiful alignments in the physical and spiritual realms. Thank you for making connections and sharing knowledge. And thank you for the beautiful lists and collections that you’ve created at your site. It’s always an honor to have a handful of my words be included there.

      A resounding yes, to coffee and to hugs! I forgot that you were in AZ. And know that I’ll return to the desert. It has magnetic pull. Count on some time together next time round.