21 November 2015 writing notes to myself in the corner of the page

21 November 2015 writing notes to myself in the corner of the page

” A messy start is simply a messy start not a failure”  

Be kind to yourself as you learn something new.  That was my mantra today.  Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself. I started a new bullet journal after weeks of researching planners and systems.  It was a rough start.  New things always are.

Especially when we’re not great at what we’re activating.  I mean, it’s hard enough to incorporate something new when you have mastery.  Even though I had some parenting skills under my belt, the truth is when Baby #3 was born, our world shifted and I had to learn new things.

Adding new components to a system AND acquiring new skills simultaneously is hard.  Extra Hard.  That matters a ton and it doesn’t matter at all.  In other words,  we can recognize and validate the difficulty level, but it mustn’t keep us from forward motion.

In teaching art and journal keeping over the last two decades, I’ve walked hundreds of people through the process of learning something new.  Hundreds.  I have seen two groups of people when it comes to dealing with learning curve:

  1. Those who move through the messy parts of learning and adjust as they go.  These people shake their fist or tuck their head down or don’t talk or they say all the words, and at the same time, THEY DO SOMETHING.  They start moving and figure it out mess and all.  Their motto is Steven Pressfield’s:  “Start before you’re ready.”
  2. Those who engage in complex methodologies to look good as they learn.  These strategies include:  never starting, keeping their hands super clean, erasing over and over and making complex plans.  They want things