For most of their childhood, anytime we went out, my children heard (actually, still hear) the phrase, “Your family is so beautiful.” Somewhere along the way, I started responding, “Thank you. And the best part is they have character too.”
I’m not sure why it bothered me. (It = the focus on the external.) I even understand why the comments get made; they are beautiful to look at and it’s hard not to notice when they are out en masse. I think the issue for me is that I want them to be seen for who they really are not just their faces. (I wanted the same thing for myself, when I was an awkward adolescent. Only I wanted someone, anyone, to look past the 40 extra pounds and glasses.) I never dreamt that beautiful people have the same struggle…
Wednesday’s prompt for NaNoJouMo was the word “beauty”. (see more about NaNoJouMo at D’Blogala – Dawn Sokol’s journal site.) The first thought that came to mind when thinking of beauty was a phrase that I started saying to my beautiful children when they were little bitty. (Actually, I don’t say the “stay for tea” part. I usually say “stay in the room”, but “stay for tea” sounded more like an art journal page and allowed me to make a little tea cup sketch. )
I recently added a new dry erase board to my writing space because I wanted needed a few things to be consistently in front of me. I guess my extreme right-brainyness needs more than the suggestion of a To Do List. True confession: I feel like I’ve handled things once they’re written down in a beautiful book. And, if said book is tucked away in my purse… then I might just forget altogether. So, I added a layer of IN-YOUR-FACE to my lists by putting them up on the wall. (It has significantly reduced the number of things that go from Important to Urgent because of memory loss.)
One of the items up on the board is a running list of blog ideas. It consists of things like events & words I don’t want to forget, quotes and photos to write about (or take). A couple of days ago, I found this addition to the list.
It made me laugh. Of course, now I have to make a list and share a photo.
The Girl (We call her The Girl because she is the only girl amongst The Brothers.) She:
* wears aprons
* is decisive and will decisive you if you aren’t
* changes her hair frequently
* has her own style
* writes stories
* bakes from scratch (Cake mix in box! Gasp.)
* is fastest on the draw to call, “Shotgun! front seat”
* is a night owl not a morning bird
* reads the book before the movie (How else can you know if they got it right?)
This accidental stack of journal, stickers and tea cup happened earlier in the day when I was moving things around on my desk. (No rearranging for a photo shoot, just making a clear space because I “spread” when I study.) I’m sharing it because the tea cup is The Girl’s.